Comments on: The Destructiveness of Bipolar Mania in Relationships http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/ Coming to Grips with Bipolar Disorder Sun, 22 Apr 2012 18:48:04 +0000 hourly 1 By: Hope22 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5752 Hope22 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 20:44:14 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5752 I recently broke up with my boyfriend who I believe is bipolar. His mother is diagnosed as having the disorder, and she is also a recovering alcoholic. He is a chronic weed smoker and stays high 24 hours a day. For the year that we were together, he managed to hold in some of his angry outburst until around the third month, although there were signs from the very beginning. I knew something was wrong because he would go into these blind rages where he would become a totally different person and verbally attack me and insult me about any thing and every thing. Honestly, it was so strange and misdirected that I couldn't even get angry at him for it because I knew there was something very WRONG. Over the course of a year he would periodically have these angry episodes, until finally, one day I just could not take the emotional abuse any longer. He had a lack of empathy that I could not believe as well as his anger. Since our break up 8 weeks ago we have been in contact and I was considering going back to him if he sought out some sort of help. But then last week while he was visiting his parents out of town he called me and was very sweet and kind and wanted me to join him and his family in a few weeks at a resort of some sort, that they were very eager to meet me. A few days after he returned from out of town we were talking and I brought up the resort trip, he then said to me that "we were both single and that I should date date other people and that he didn't see us working out our disagreements any time soon." Case closed. I AM RUNNING FOR THE HILLS!!!!! I recently broke up with my boyfriend who I believe is bipolar. His mother is diagnosed as having the disorder, and she is also a recovering alcoholic. He is a chronic weed smoker and stays high 24 hours a day. For the year that we were together, he managed to hold in some of his angry outburst until around the third month, although there were signs from the very beginning. I knew something was wrong because he would go into these blind rages where he would become a totally different person and verbally attack me and insult me about any thing and every thing. Honestly, it was so strange and misdirected that I couldn't even get angry at him for it because I knew there was something very WRONG. Over the course of a year he would periodically have these angry episodes, until finally, one day I just could not take the emotional abuse any longer. He had a lack of empathy that I could not believe as well as his anger.

Since our break up 8 weeks ago we have been in contact and I was considering going back to him if he sought out some sort of help. But then last week while he was visiting his parents out of town he called me and was very sweet and kind and wanted me to join him and his family in a few weeks at a resort of some sort, that they were very eager to meet me. A few days after he returned from out of town we were talking and I brought up the resort trip, he then said to me that "we were both single and that I should date date other people and that he didn't see us working out our disagreements any time soon."

Case closed. I AM RUNNING FOR THE HILLS!!!!!

]]> By: Come. At. Me. http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5751 Come. At. Me. Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:07:00 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5751 From the beginning of this poorly thought out and written article, I automatically realized the author was uneducated and ignorant to the facts and truth to Bipolar Disorder, so I reminded myself to not get offended by the garbage I continued to read. I couldn't stick to that reminder- and I am not Bipolar. What it seems like to me, is you have little to no understanding or experience with the disorder. Your unprofessional aspect on the whole, points to the suggestion that you are not a doctor, therapist, psychologist, etc. but someone who needs help as well. I mean, throwing together a random website to inadequately heed others of the "dangers" of Bipolar doesn't seem to peachy to me.... If you think there is nothing mentally wrong in your brain, that the small shriveled up walnut inside your head is 100.00% perfect, you are wrong, once again. You kn- nope. I'm done writing, because I just realized you are probably pro-life and support the death penalty, too, right? Anyway, the church, your government, the media you love and the bank your life is stored away in are brainwashing you at such a rapid pace, you focus on the propaganda fed to you religiously and will never be able to open your eyes and see the truth. Don't let your dying day be the day you realize everything you know is a lie. Get informed xoxo From the beginning of this poorly thought out and written article, I automatically realized the author was uneducated and ignorant to the facts and truth to Bipolar Disorder, so I reminded myself to not get offended by the garbage I continued to read. I couldn't stick to that reminder- and I am not Bipolar.

What it seems like to me, is you have little to no understanding or experience with the disorder. Your unprofessional aspect on the whole, points to the suggestion that you are not a doctor, therapist, psychologist, etc. but someone who needs help as well. I mean, throwing together a random website to inadequately heed others of the "dangers" of Bipolar doesn't seem to peachy to me….

If you think there is nothing mentally wrong in your brain, that the small shriveled up walnut inside your head is 100.00% perfect, you are wrong, once again.

You kn- nope. I'm done writing, because I just realized you are probably pro-life and support the death penalty, too, right?

Anyway, the church, your government, the media you love and the bank your life is stored away in are brainwashing you at such a rapid pace, you focus on the propaganda fed to you religiously and will never be able to open your eyes and see the truth. Don't let your dying day be the day you realize everything you know is a lie. Get informed

xoxo

]]> By: Sad side http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5748 Sad side Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:58:35 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5748 I'm bipolar and can't wait for the day I kill myself Thanks to my disorder and thanks to wall the normals that have kicked the hell out of me my entire screwed up life I'm bipolar and can't wait for the day I kill myself Thanks to my disorder and thanks to wall the normals that have kicked the hell out of me my entire screwed up life

]]> By: Bryan http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5742 Bryan Sun, 01 Apr 2012 17:55:41 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5742 @<a href="#comment-3841" rel="nofollow">Erica</a>: I respect Erica's comments and the truth in them. The article, I believe is more of a support for partners of an individual that is afflicted with bi-polar disorder. As a spouse of a wife with bi-polar I needed to read this, you see I'm suffering a GREAT deal from the disorder my spouse has. There appears to be little support out there for partners and life can be incredibly painful without having the disorder ones self. Please allow those that suffer an opportunity to have unbiased support, you are not the only one suffering. @Erica: I respect Erica's comments and the truth in them. The article, I believe is more of a support for partners of an individual that is afflicted with bi-polar disorder. As a spouse of a wife with bi-polar I needed to read this, you see I'm suffering a GREAT deal from the disorder my spouse has. There appears to be little support out there for partners and life can be incredibly painful without having the disorder ones self. Please allow those that suffer an opportunity to have unbiased support, you are not the only one suffering.

]]> By: Gina http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5739 Gina Thu, 22 Mar 2012 01:14:44 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5739 I dated a bi-polar man for a year and a half. We got pregnant and I lost the baby around 3 months, during this miscarriage he left me and said I was better off. No apologies just told me he was doing this for me. That he was selfless - he never felt an ounce of guilt. He always made it about himself and what he was going through. Never empathisized for me whatsoever. He use to cry a lot which i thought was because he was going through a tough time. After months he tried to win me back - wooing me every which way he could, all the right words and all the right presents. Once I came back figuring he was sorry and realized what he lost he then told me the relationship was just not right for him 24 hours later. That was the last straw for me. He changed his mind each way the wind blew. I knew he was depressed but hadn't known at the time he was truly bi-polar. After reading everything on this mental illness I know its not truly his fault but I choose to walk away and live in a healthy relationship that does not make me feel bad day in and day out. I dated a bi-polar man for a year and a half. We got pregnant and I lost the baby around 3 months, during this miscarriage he left me and said I was better off. No apologies just told me he was doing this for me. That he was selfless – he never felt an ounce of guilt. He always made it about himself and what he was going through. Never empathisized for me whatsoever. He use to cry a lot which i thought was because he was going through a tough time. After months he tried to win me back – wooing me every which way he could, all the right words and all the right presents. Once I came back figuring he was sorry and realized what he lost he then told me the relationship was just not right for him 24 hours later. That was the last straw for me. He changed his mind each way the wind blew. I knew he was depressed but hadn't known at the time he was truly bi-polar. After reading everything on this mental illness I know its not truly his fault but I choose to walk away and live in a healthy relationship that does not make me feel bad day in and day out.

]]> By: Anonymous http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5738 Anonymous Sun, 18 Mar 2012 00:04:08 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5738 U are amazing. Thank you. @<a href="#comment-3910" rel="nofollow">Mr Anonymous</a>: U are amazing. Thank you. @Mr Anonymous:

]]> By: Chris http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5730 Chris Sun, 04 Mar 2012 03:07:24 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5730 Hi Victoria, I am so sorry to hear your ex-boyfriend had broken your heart. I know the feeling and it hurts. count your blessing he will no longer break your heart anymore and let him be miserable for the rest of his life. I realized the man I had a relationship with 18 months was a Narcissist and had use as his source supply to stroke his ego and mentally abuse me. if it wasn't for Louis who had mention to me that this man (Dave) was probably a Narcissist. I knew there was something wrong with the relationship I had with Dave. the first year together he sweep me off my feet, he made me feel so wonderful, he would tell me he loved me and wanted to marry me and we were so right for each. than things started to change, all of sudden without any warning he would ingored my calls and give me the silent treatment. I was so cufused what was going on and I would tried my best to make him happy. after a few months of this abuse I had ran out of tears and didn't want to tried anymore. thank god Louis was the one who had mention that might be Narcissist and not bipolar which he was so right. after doing some research Dave is without a doubt a Narcissist. he had all the traits of one. I had also found a very useful website with Lisa E Scott she shared her experience of being a victim of an Narcissist and eveything she had talked about is so much to parpalled what I was had went through with Dave. I am now on my way to recovering from Dave's narcissist abuse. Hi Victoria, I am so sorry to hear your ex-boyfriend had broken your heart. I know the feeling and it hurts. count your blessing he will no longer break your heart anymore and let him be miserable for the rest of his life. I realized the man I had a relationship with 18 months was a Narcissist and had use as his source supply to stroke his ego and mentally abuse me. if it wasn't for Louis who had mention to me that this man (Dave) was probably a Narcissist. I knew there was something wrong with the relationship I had with Dave. the first year together he sweep me off my feet, he made me feel so wonderful, he would tell me he loved me and wanted to marry me and we were so right for each. than things started to change, all of sudden without any warning he would ingored my calls and give me the silent treatment. I was so cufused what was going on and I would tried my best to make him happy. after a few months of this abuse I had ran out of tears and didn't want to tried anymore. thank god Louis was the one who had mention that might be Narcissist and not bipolar which he was so right. after doing some research Dave is without a doubt a Narcissist. he had all the traits of one. I had also found a very useful website with Lisa E Scott she shared her experience of being a victim of an Narcissist and eveything she had talked about is so much to parpalled what I was had went through with Dave. I am now on my way to recovering from Dave's narcissist abuse.

]]> By: Victoria http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5729 Victoria Sat, 03 Mar 2012 17:29:58 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5729 Wow, the above comment is parallel to my life at the moment. I have had a six month relationship with a bi polar man who met me and ended a 6 year relationship. He swept me off my feet, wanted to marry me, told me he loved me within a couple of weeks. It was all like a dream. By three months, I was made to feel paraniod as he became shifty. His ex had been in contact a few times. He would not volunteer this info, I had to ask and God help me if I continued the conversation. It would be shut down. He claimed his ex was a liar, psychotic, abusive, had hit him many times etc. I became suspicious, but with no solid proof I couldn't bring it up. This ate me up inside and made me paraniod which I am not in normal circumstances. He came to mine one night, sat talking about his anxiety problems, draining my energy, as I counselled him again. He rang later that night and said he still had feelings for his ex. The conversation lasted 10 minutes and I had no other option than to end it, as I was forced into a corner. I have had no contact with him since and although he has broken my heart, part of me is relieved as I should have never been made to feel the way I did. Needless to say, I will not be entering another bi polar relationship EVER again. Wow, the above comment is parallel to my life at the moment. I have had a six month relationship with a bi polar man who met me and ended a 6 year relationship. He swept me off my feet, wanted to marry me, told me he loved me within a couple of weeks. It was all like a dream. By three months, I was made to feel paraniod as he became shifty. His ex had been in contact a few times. He would not volunteer this info, I had to ask and God help me if I continued the conversation. It would be shut down. He claimed his ex was a liar, psychotic, abusive, had hit him many times etc. I became suspicious, but with no solid proof I couldn't bring it up. This ate me up inside and made me paraniod which I am not in normal circumstances. He came to mine one night, sat talking about his anxiety problems, draining my energy, as I counselled him again. He rang later that night and said he still had feelings for his ex. The conversation lasted 10 minutes and I had no other option than to end it, as I was forced into a corner. I have had no contact with him since and although he has broken my heart, part of me is relieved as I should have never been made to feel the way I did. Needless to say, I will not be entering another bi polar relationship EVER again.

]]> By: Chris http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5728 Chris Thu, 01 Mar 2012 02:53:30 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5728 Hi Louis, after much research about narcissist, I had realized you were so right about the man I had a relationship with a while back. he had many of the narcisstic traits that I was not aware of. now he has been seeing another women and he is using her for her money but at the same she is a control freak as well who throws her large sum of money to control himmy ex-boyfriend and I still talk and he is always complainting about her to me saying she always wants to comtrol him and they have many fights. I'm thinking maybe she is aware of his narcissitic behavior and wants to take control of it. I know I should count my blessing and let them, they probably deserved to make each other miserable. thank you louis for opening my eyes and see him for what he really is! Hi Louis, after much research about narcissist, I had realized you were so right about the man I had a relationship with a while back. he had many of the narcisstic traits that I was not aware of. now he has been seeing another women and he is using her for her money but at the same she is a control freak as well who throws her large sum of money to control himmy ex-boyfriend and I still talk and he is always complainting about her to me saying she always wants to comtrol him and they have many fights. I'm thinking maybe she is aware of his narcissitic behavior and wants to take control of it. I know I should count my blessing and let them, they probably deserved to make each other miserable. thank you louis for opening my eyes and see him for what he really is!

]]> By: Chris http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5726 Chris Sun, 26 Feb 2012 04:31:15 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5726 Hi Louis I also forgot to mention I had been through a emotional roller coaster with this man, I love him very much and I had done quite of bit of research on bipolar disorder so I can understand him better. Hi Louis I also forgot to mention I had been through a emotional roller coaster with this man, I love him very much and I had done quite of bit of research on bipolar disorder so I can understand him better.

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