Comments on: The Destructiveness of Bipolar Mania in Relationships http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/ Coming to Grips with Bipolar Disorder Tue, 24 Jan 2012 12:25:13 +0000 hourly 1 By: Kalib http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5711 Kalib Tue, 24 Jan 2012 12:25:13 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5711 I was diagnosed in october 2011. I was immediately put on Lithium, which I'm now not taking because the side effects were too bad (I was forgetting basic stuff, like how to get dressed...). I'm now waiting for the psychiatrist to decide what meds to put me on. I know that I have an illness that needs to be treated, but swear sometimes it seems like some of these health care places drag their feet unless you're having a full blown manic episode. And I've lied without feeling guilty about it while manic, stole just for the adrenaline high (no guilt) and blown up in peoples faces a number of times. I've spent days at a time in the bedroom, not wanting to go anywhere, just lying there and wanting to die. Or be so manic as to be hyperactive. Mum loves that one, because I'll come by and clean :P I was diagnosed in october 2011. I was immediately put on Lithium, which I'm now not taking because the side effects were too bad (I was forgetting basic stuff, like how to get dressed…). I'm now waiting for the psychiatrist to decide what meds to put me on.
I know that I have an illness that needs to be treated, but swear sometimes it seems like some of these health care places drag their feet unless you're having a full blown manic episode.
And I've lied without feeling guilty about it while manic, stole just for the adrenaline high (no guilt) and blown up in peoples faces a number of times. I've spent days at a time in the bedroom, not wanting to go anywhere, just lying there and wanting to die.
Or be so manic as to be hyperactive. Mum loves that one, because I'll come by and clean :P

]]> By: Anonymous http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5709 Anonymous Sat, 21 Jan 2012 10:26:30 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5709 @<a href="#comment-5702" rel="nofollow">louis</a>: all i can say to everyone here is... You can't paint everyone with the same brush! the illness affects people differently it seems.... i love you all!! @louis:

all i can say to everyone here is… You can't paint everyone with the same brush! the illness affects people differently it seems…. i love you all!!

]]> By: Anonymous http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5706 Anonymous Thu, 05 Jan 2012 21:25:51 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5706 I disagree 100% with what you said regarding the article. I made the mistake of marrying someone who has bipolar disorder and she has systematically taken me apart piece by piece over the last three years doing nearly everything that the author of this article warns about. Now, to give you and everyone else the benefit of the doubt, I do agree that most or all people with this disorder probably do feel guilt or sadness about things they have done in the past. The difference is, in my experience anyways, that my wife will do everything that did again and again even after she knows how much she has hurt me and those around them. I have tried everything I can think of to help her and nothing has made a difference and I mean nothing!!! I pay for her college, bought her a car, and gave her a great place to live on top of being a good and loving husband (which she has never argued). Still, even with all of that, it makes no difference. She cannot control herself. I feel very bad for you and anyone else who is diagnosed with this illness because at this point, we are just no far enough along with our medical knowledge to help everyone with this issue and that is truly heartbreaking- not only for the person with the problem, but also for their loved ones. The fact is though, now that I have been down this path, if anyone were to ask me if they should marry someone with this problem, I would definitely tell them not to. Now, not only has she destroyed her life, but she has destroyed mine as well. Like I said though, I really wish this illness did not exist because it is almost a death sentence for the many people who the medication doesn't help and after living with someone who suffers from this, i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. @<a href="#comment-3841" rel="nofollow">Erica</a>: I disagree 100% with what you said regarding the article. I made the mistake of marrying someone who has bipolar disorder and she has systematically taken me apart piece by piece over the last three years doing nearly everything that the author of this article warns about. Now, to give you and everyone else the benefit of the doubt, I do agree that most or all people with this disorder probably do feel guilt or sadness about things they have done in the past. The difference is, in my experience anyways, that my wife will do everything that did again and again even after she knows how much she has hurt me and those around them. I have tried everything I can think of to help her and nothing has made a difference and I mean nothing!!! I pay for her college, bought her a car, and gave her a great place to live on top of being a good and loving husband (which she has never argued). Still, even with all of that, it makes no difference. She cannot control herself. I feel very bad for you and anyone else who is diagnosed with this illness because at this point, we are just no far enough along with our medical knowledge to help everyone with this issue and that is truly heartbreaking- not only for the person with the problem, but also for their loved ones. The fact is though, now that I have been down this path, if anyone were to ask me if they should marry someone with this problem, I would definitely tell them not to. Now, not only has she destroyed her life, but she has destroyed mine as well. Like I said though, I really wish this illness did not exist because it is almost a death sentence for the many people who the medication doesn't help and after living with someone who suffers from this, i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. @Erica:

]]> By: Beverly http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5705 Beverly Wed, 04 Jan 2012 22:42:25 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5705 The article above mostly describes my life, a huge roller coaster ride with very few stops on normal. I am fast cycling, mother of 1, newly married, with huge anger issues. I have never been an ass to my current husband but my 1st husband I was awful too, name calling, throwing objects at himof often my son saw the worst, which of course I feel guilt about. He no longer lives in my care and I have not been able to work outside the home. There is always something going on in my life some kind of drama or another. Even though I have tried to eliminate certain people from my life, it is mostly my family who are none believers of my diagnosis now which is very sad as now is when I need them the most. Life since being diagnosed has been slowly getting better, thru meds, therapy and my wonderful husband I think I may actually come out on the other side a little lighter in the friends dept. but richer with my man in my Life. I wish all bipolar sufferers to find someone to love you no matter what! The stability it created for me is paramount to my recovery now I just have to get my ass back to work...here is hoping this is my year to shine The article above mostly describes my life, a huge roller coaster ride with very few stops on normal. I am fast cycling, mother of 1, newly married, with huge anger issues. I have never been an ass to my current husband but my 1st husband I was awful too, name calling, throwing objects at himof often my son saw the worst, which of course I feel guilt about. He no longer lives in my care and I have not been able to work outside the home. There is always something going on in my life some kind of drama or another. Even though I have tried to eliminate certain people from my life, it is mostly my family who are none believers of my diagnosis now which is very sad as now is when I need them the most. Life since being diagnosed has been slowly getting better, thru meds, therapy and my wonderful husband I think I may actually come out on the other side a little lighter in the friends dept. but richer with my man in my Life. I wish all bipolar sufferers to find someone to love you no matter what! The stability it created for me is paramount to my recovery now I just have to get my ass back to work…here is hoping this is my year to shine

]]> By: louis http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5702 louis Sat, 24 Dec 2011 00:21:18 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5702 i really don't know anything about the high of bipolar 1, because i am not that wise. Bur people who are capable of real depression are more than capable of empathy and compassion and remorse. i believe that applies to bipolar 1 as well. i really don't know anything about the high of bipolar 1, because i am not that wise. Bur people who are capable of real depression are more than capable of empathy and compassion and remorse. i believe that applies to bipolar 1 as well.

]]> By: Haydon http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5701 Haydon Fri, 23 Dec 2011 14:39:20 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5701 To sum it up. This article is shit. To sum it up. This article is shit.

]]> By: louis http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5699 louis Thu, 22 Dec 2011 00:24:26 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5699 @<a href="#comment-5608" rel="nofollow">Chris</a>: Chris the man you describe is probably a narcissist. Please check for yourself. Many people with disorders are misdiagnosed, particularly younger people. @Chris:
Chris the man you describe is probably a narcissist. Please check for yourself. Many people with disorders are misdiagnosed, particularly younger people.

]]> By: louis http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5698 louis Wed, 21 Dec 2011 23:14:48 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5698 i think a lot of people at this post are confusing character with bipolar trait. i am a bipolar, have taken medication in the past, and am too honest. i have never been in a romantic relationship and have never touched a woman although a few have touched me. i am an introverted loner. i don't lie or cheat or steal. i don't drive a car because i consider that violent behaviour. i want to suggest that that some of these rotten bipolars have other personality problems/disorders. i think a lot of people at this post are confusing character with bipolar trait. i am a bipolar, have taken medication in the past, and am too honest. i have never been in a romantic relationship and have never touched a woman although a few have touched me. i am an introverted loner. i don't lie or cheat or steal. i don't drive a car because i consider that violent behaviour. i want to suggest that that some of these rotten bipolars have other personality problems/disorders.

]]> By: Julie http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5695 Julie Wed, 14 Dec 2011 22:08:46 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5695 @<a href="#comment-3841" rel="nofollow">Erica</a>: I totally agree with you Erica. I am bipolar myself and this article is a disgrace. I have heard that the condition makes some people promiscuous, it has never affected me that way...nor 2 other people I know that have the illness. I have never stolen anything off of anyone either, or spent my time compulsively lying :( @Erica: I totally agree with you Erica. I am bipolar myself and this article is a disgrace. I have heard that the condition makes some people promiscuous, it has never affected me that way…nor 2 other people I know that have the illness. I have never stolen anything off of anyone either, or spent my time compulsively lying :(

]]> By: Chris http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/2009/06/the-destructiveness-of-bipolar-mania-in-relationships/#comment-5608 Chris Sat, 12 Nov 2011 23:34:39 +0000 http://knowingbipolardisorder.com/?p=775#comment-5608 @<a href="#comment-5031" rel="nofollow">Brit</a>: I have to agree with Brit, I was in a relationship with a man who I believe has Manic Bipolar. he recently broke my heart and hurt me in the worst way too and didn't care about my feelings only but his own. every month he wanted to break up because he was confused about his life, everything was about him and how he felt, he was never was concened about my feelings. it got the point where I didn't want to deal with this anymore. I hope I'll never meet anyone like him agani. @Brit:
I have to agree with Brit, I was in a relationship with a man who I believe has Manic Bipolar. he recently broke my heart and hurt me in the worst way too and didn't care about my feelings only but his own. every month he wanted to break up because he was confused about his life, everything was about him and how he felt, he was never was concened about my feelings. it got the point where I didn't want to deal with this anymore. I hope I'll never meet anyone like him agani.

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